Resiliency has become a hot topic in the past few years with so many things happening in the world. And just like in the rest of the world, our youths’ whole world was flipped upside down. On top of having to deal with all those changes, today’s youth are constantly dealing with other challenges like changes in their regular lives, new classrooms, learning new subjects, bullying, etc. Dealing with the uncertainties of growing up in a complex world and even thriving despite all of them takes many skills. One of the most important includes resilience.
To put it simply resiliency is the ability to handle difficult situations and being able to “bounce back” after a challenge or life obstacle. Having resilience does not mean you don’t struggle, but instead you are able to handle the bump in the road and rise above it be better prepared for life’s next bump. And the amazing part is this same skill is one that will allow one to get the most out of the good times!
No Bubble Wrap Needed: As a parent you always want to protect your child and if given the choice you would bubble wrap them. But you can’t. What you can do is prepare them to navigate the world. You’re thinking to yourself, well how do I help my children become more resilient? Where do I even begin? Not to worry, by starting these few simple practices with your family will help build a strong foundation of resilience!
Be Their Support: By showing your child you support and love them as they are, you are helping your child understand they are worthy, and this self-esteem has amazing implications. This unwavering support does not mean you are approving of every decision your child makes or saying go do whatever you want, but rather it is providing that consistent presence of being there.
When your kid knows someone has their back, this is when they can take those leaps of development. Having that assurance of “I’m not going anywhere” from their parent or guardian allows them to take those (safe) risks with confidence. As a caregiver sometimes you may worry about saying the right thing, when sometimes it’s how you listen and the presence you portray that makes just as much impact.
Keep Things in Perspective: When you child is going through a difficult situation, help them to take a step back and look at the broader picture and long-term perspective. Although your child (and your teen), may not be able to look at the long-term view on their own, you can help them see past the current situation and that the future is good. Having a positive outlook helps children to see the good things in life and keep going even in the hardest of times.
Turn Inward!: Practice becoming more resilient yourself! We can model resilience when choose healthy coping strategies, keeping things in perspective, looking on the bright side of situations, and growing from challenges. By discussing your thoughts and feelings with your kiddos they can learn to benefit from the right emotions, and which ones may undermine their well-being.
7 C’s of Resilience
On top of these foundational components discussed above, much research has been done on the 7 C’s of Resilience that make up a resilient person. This blog barely touched on the surface of all the other skills that help build resilience. Check out the short video below to learn more about them!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DTmi4kHor_s
Remember if you or your family members are struggling to deal with an adverse experience, seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can assist you in increasing your resilience and managing your distress in a healthy way.
If you would like to learn more about different ways to help build resilience in yourself and family check out these links down below.
· https://positivepsychology.com/resilience-activities-worksheets/
· https://www.apa.org/topics/resilience/guide-parents-teachers
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